Depressing post ahead. Proceed with caution.
Marriage is not simply being wedded to the man or woman you are presently in love with. Well, at least that is always the concept that all of us have been brainwashed to believe.
I am guilty of thinking and hoping that marriage will be like one of those Disney movies where happily ever after will happen eventually and everyone is happy and merry. It took me a long time to understand and accept that a marriage is more than just being accepting of one another or loving each other through thick and thin. Because vows, there are simply words said during a happy moment. But how valid are vows and promises made before the wedding? How far does “i will love you and take care of you for the rest of my life” go?
This post may sound so bitter but I am trying to make you understand that marriage isn’t just about waking up to the person you are in love with. It is more than just the couples’ pictures you reposted and reshared on Instagram. It is more than that. Marriage is work. Marriage requires work and a whole lot more that you will eventually learn when you are married.
Don’t be scared to get married though. Failed marriages don’t mean yours will fail too. But successful marriages will not guarantee you a successful one too. Everyone’s marriages is different. We all have our own obstacles and our own highs and lows.
Being together with someone for so many years doesn’t mean that you know him/her well already. What you see is just the exterior or what he/she has conditioned themselves for their partners to see. Because let’s face it, courting equals putting on your best attitude and ensure your other half is happy all the time.
It sounds simple but try doing that 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. Would you not be tired? Putting on a front? Eventually, everyone who got married will begin to show their true colours and that is when the real deal happens. That’s when shit is down 😂
Marriage isn’t easy. If you think marriage is like those Disney marriages, you are wrong. Well perhaps if you are lucky and end up with a real life Prince Charming. Otherwise, you need to stop dreaming. A dream is a wish your heart makes but sometimes, a wish is simply a wish sister. Can’t do nothing about that. Sorry to break your happy bubble. ☺️